Written by: Aaron Buttery
The question of dating within our faith has caused much debate and hurt feelings among Christians, which is expected considering this can be a pretty sensitive issue. Despite all the debate, I believe that as Christians this issue should be addressed using the Bible. And I hate to break the news, but if the Word of God contradicts how people feel, God’s Word should take precedence — every time. The principles found in Scripture are not just arbitrary commands; rather, they are there for people’s protection and happiness.
Take the story of Samson, for example. This guy was God’s anointed judge, yet his life turned into a never-ending tragedy because of his desire to be with a Philistine woman. His reason? “She pleases me well! We have great chemistry!” Sound familiar?
There is also the story of Solomon, who had about 1,000 women in his harem, many of whom were from foreign lands. Even though he knew better, Solomon kept going down his sinful rabbit hole of polygamy until he had strayed from God almost entirely. Many people would believe it’s okay to “flirt to convert.” However, in most cases, like Solomon, it’s the worldly spouse or partner who converts the Christian to the worldly lifestyle.
In 2 Corinthians 6:14-16, Paul instructs believers to not be “unequally yoked” to those who do not believe. It’s understandable why he would say this, seeing as it’s extremely difficult for a committed Christian to live with someone who has a completely different worldview.
Think about it. If a person is searching for someone who can be their life partner, why would they want to join lives with someone who disagrees with them on fundamental questions, such as what is right and wrong, where do we come from and what is our purpose?
I want to challenge people who are seeking a relationship with an individual to pause and consider if they could truly develop a deep bond with that person.
If they cannot honestly answer that question with a “yes,” shouldn’t they seek out someone with whom they can have a truly loving, godly and happy relationship?