Written by Kiana Oliver
Editor’s note: The following article is written by a counseling graduate student in partnership with Counseling Services and the Southern Accent.
Highs and lows, ups and downs. To describe her psychiatric disorder, author Alyssa Reyans writes, “Bipolar robs you of that which is you. It can take from you the very core of your being and replace it with something that is completely opposite of who and what you truly are.”
Although the symptoms and their severity can vary, the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) stated that individuals with bipolar disorder may experience hallucinations, delusions and episodes of extreme moodiness.
One day, a person might feel invincible with endless energy and a heightened sense of self-confidence. They’re ready to move mountains! But this “high” doesn’t last forever; bipolar disorder also involves debilitating moments of depression and an increased risk of suicide. This disorder is often described as an emotional roller-coaster with its highs and lows, ups and downs.
As a person is going through these manic or depressive phases, there are other passengers on this ride: family, friends and partners.
Please note it is possible to have a happy and healthy relationship with individuals who have bipolar disorder. However, living with this condition has its challenges, and this article hopes to bring awareness about ways you can support your loved one.
As with any psychiatric disorder, the first step in helping someone is to learn more about his or her diagnosis. There are various types of bipolar disorders: bipolar I disorder, bipolar II disorder, cyclothymia disorder and other types. Although these disorders involve changes in a person’s mood, energy and activity level, it’s important to recognize that they have different characteristics. Having this knowledge will better prepare you to look out for signs of manic or depressive episodes.
As emphasized by Traci Pedersen’s article, “Tips for living with someone who has bipolar disorder,” try to not take things personally when your loved one is in a state of depression, mania or hypomania. During these times, the person may lash out and say inappropriate things. Recognize that your loved one wouldn’t normally express these hurtful comments when he or she is not experiencing an episode.
Most importantly, you must set limits and protect your well-being. It’s never okay to endure physical or emotional abuse from another person.
An article published by the Recovery Village encourages readers to create a safety plan for when your loved one is acting recklessly. For example, if you notice that his or her behavior is becoming risky during manic an episode, insist on driving or avoid being a passenger in the car. If the person becomes suicidal or violent, don’t attempt to handle the situation on your own––call emergency services.
It’s not easy riding with the highs and lows, ups and downs of bipolar disorder, but remember: Never give up hope that your loved one can improve through treatment and therapy.
Thank you to local high schooler, Addison Carter, who suggested the topic for this article!