Written by: Abby Dizon
Editor’s Note: The following articles are written by counseling professionals and students from Counseling Services in partnership with the Accent.
Processing a breakup can be hard, especially when it is unexpected. Add managing schoolwork on top of that, and it can seem almost impossible at times. What may be the hardest part is accepting that the breakup happened and life goes on, even if all you want to do is crawl into bed and stay there indefinitely. This article will mention tips that can help you stay on top of your studies despite the challenges happening in your heart.
The first tip, and perhaps the most obvious, is to implement healthy boundaries from your ex. Maybe that means not texting them as much or avoiding places where you might run into them while the breakup is still fresh. A non-negotiable rule that applies to everyone is to not check their social media or purposely try to bump into them around campus. Doing this can disrupt your peace of mind and cause you to feel mixed emotions. You might feel glad that they are happy or hopeful that there is potential for you both to get back together or even more heartbroken if you see they have moved on. No matter the situation, maintaining your peace of mind is more important than knowing what your ex is up to.
The second tip is to prioritize taking care of yourself. This is crucial when you are dealing with a breakup and trying to stay focused in school. Making sure that you are eating well, getting enough sleep, spending time with your friends and engaging in activities that you enjoy are all ways to care for your mind and body.
Getting exercise and spending time outdoors are scientifically proven to reduce stress and improve your mood. A 2021 study showed that outdoor nature-based activities are effective for improved mood, less anxiety and more positive emotions, which leads to improving mental health in adults, including those with pre-existing mental health problems. When you prioritize your physical and emotional well-being, you’ll be better equipped to handle the challenges that come your way.
The third and final tip: If you find yourself struggling to cope with the aftermath of a breakup and to maintain focus on your studies, do not hesitate to seek help. Southern offers free counseling services for students going through difficult times. Talking to a professional can provide you with valuable coping strategies and emotional support as you navigate this challenging period. Remember, it is okay to ask for help when you need it, and taking care of your mental health is just as important as taking care of your academic responsibilities. To make an appointment, call the Counseling Service at 423.236.2782 or walk into their office on the third floor of Bietz Center for Student Life.
