By: Abby Dizon
Processing a breakup can be hard, especially when it is unexpected. When you add managing schoolwork on top of that, it can seem almost impossible. Perhaps the hardest part is accepting that the breakup happened and that life goes on, even if all you want to do is crawl into bed and stay there indefinitely.
This article provides tips that can help you stay on top of your studies amidst the turmoil happening in your heart.
The first—and perhaps the most important— tip is to set healthy boundaries with your ex. Each person is different, and maybe that means not texting them as much or avoiding places where you might run into them. This is especially helpful while the breakup is still fresh.
A non-negotiable is to avoid checking their social media or purposefully trying to bump into them. Doing this can disrupt your peace of mind and cause you to feel mixed emotions. On the one hand, seeing your ex might bring you a sense of happiness, combined with a glimmer of hope for you both to get back together. On the other hand, checking up on their social media platforms can lead to even more heartbreak when you see that they look happy even though you’re no longer in their life. Maintaining your peace of mind is more important than keeping tabs on your ex’s activities.
The second tip is to prioritize taking care of yourself, which is crucial in dealing with a breakup while trying to stay focused in school. Making sure you are eating well, getting enough sleep, spending time with your friends and engaging in activities that you enjoy are all ways to care for your mind and body.
Exercise and spending time outdoors are scientifically proven to reduce stress and improve your mood. According to a 2021 study, outdoor nature-based activities are effective for boosting mood, lowering anxiety and experiencing more positive emotions, which led to improved mental health in adults, including those with pre-existing mental health problems.
When you prioritize your physical and emotional well-being, you’ll be better equipped to handle the challenges that come your way.
The third and final tip: do not hesitate to seek help. Southern Adventist University offers free counseling services for students going through difficult times. Talking to a professional can provide you with valuable coping strategies and emotional support as you navigate this challenging period.
Remember, it is okay to ask for help when you need it, and taking care of your mental health is just as important as taking care of your academic responsibilities.
To make an appointment, call the Counseling Service at 423-236-2782 or walk into their office on the third floor of Bietz Center for Student Life.
